PROFILE OF A CONTROL FREAK Part 3

25 Oct

Control freaks are masked in Christian hypocrisy.

Normal strivings for power in a believer are motivated by a sincere desire to be used by God  to deliver those in  the kingdom of this world  so that they might enter  the kingdom of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ of Nazareth. What distinguishes normal inclinations from obsessions is that demonic striving for power is often rooted in fear, hatred and feelings of inferiority. A passive-aggressive control freak wears a phony mask.

 Let’s bring it down home to where we all live. Racism is a cultural factor that involves hatred and fear. . When the predominant culture is in fear of losing its power and even worse, becoming extinct, demons of fear, hatred and pride conjoin with the witchcraft demon to control, dominate and suppress those of another race or culture. Then there are those who feel insecure mentally and emotionally who strive for power as a means to protect themselves from anxiety and from a feeling of helplessness.

The  religious demon is also attracted to a soul that feels very insignificant. Those who have been consistently oppressed will develop a rigidity and an unbalanced “super strength” which makes them think and act as if they can master any situation in their own power. Such a person will pretend that he is leaning and trusting on the Lord’s power by spouting scripture like “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”, yet within his soul he considers any weakness as a disgrace and he is steeped in pride. For example, he judges other saints as being weak, when in reality, he himself feels weak and insignificant. This is fertile ground for demons and devils  because they  can use the captive to intimidate the weaker brethren and to cause the control freak to feel condemned.  When the control freak feels condemn, WATCH OUT FOLK! The ruling  entity  will  cause the control freak  to despise himself when he has fallen. When the control freak despises himself, EVERYBODY is a target!

The control freak will  demand to know every detail of even the most insignificant situations. When he or she  has not been informed of EVERYTHING, extreme agitation sets it which a passive-aggressive control freak will be skilled at hiding from others. People with this character flaw can appear to be extremely generous. No one may even notice his desire to dominate and control because the captive is so subtly manipulative. Usually in such cases, a lying demon is involved also. People who appear to be submissive and giving will surprise you with how manipulative they can be. For example, when you righteously confront them with issues that are important to YOU , they avoid the issue at hand by simply responding with counter accusations, whether they be true or not. All confrontation, no matter how small or insignificant, causes them to perceive you as THE ENEMY.

Secular psychoanalysts would agree that constant striving for superiority or “one upsmanship” is at the center of the narcissistic personality, forming a stronghold that is very difficult to shake or even to weaken.  The question to as is “What is at the root of the constant striving?” In some cases, it is an unconscious sense of inferiority. Such people are in a perpetual search for something that will make them feel more personally competent and they get a temporary satisfaction in dominating others by outshining them.

Elder Jones was of this sort.  A dark-skinned African-American, Elder Jones was born and raised in the segregated south.  Too many times did she expose the fact that she felt inferior because of her skin color.  So she compensated. In the denomination, Elder Jones  became the FIRST woman regional administrator in 150 years. So once she obtained this noteworthy position,   why would she unnecessarily place herself in competition with her immediate predecessor, and determine that she would outshine him? Why would she continue to try to outdo all of the ministers that she now had oversight power over? It made no logical sense.

 For example, a church lost its pastor in the middle of the year  and a temporary appointment was in order.  Elder Jones had 5 ministers available to her to pick from.  Did she select one of them?  No.  She selected herself, even though she already was pastoring a church when it is the normal policy for someone in her position to relinquish the role of pastor entirely.  So she became the pastor of not one church but two, also remained the regional administrator, with 10 other churches and pastors under her watch care.  Once she appointed herself pastor of the second church, the members passively  rebelled by not attending on Sunday mornings, a mistake on their part.  Elder Jones used her power as the right hand of the Bishop to recommend that this 100 year old church be closed and the Bishop acted upon her recommendation.  The church is NO MORE! 

Passive-aggressive people can be very dangerous in uncountable ways. The truth will set them free but the truth hurts them to much.  Pride causes people to not want to admit that they are suffering from feelings of inferiority that cause them to “lord it over” others.  This is a most serious situation.  Not only are these types at risk of perdition, when they obtain positions of power and authority, they are dangerous. Control freaks are particularly dangerous because they DO have a form of godliness because they behavior is eccessively polite, and they are very skilled at feigned poise in their strivings for position and power.  The central issue of a control freak is domination and control. Elder Jones strong desire for power is masked by her being “a good person.”  So she uses her good character to be in a position of unchallenged prominence and prestige. The dangerous element of the woman is that she feels herself to be surrounded on all sides by competition for the ascendency that she herself craves. As a result, her strong need to outshine or excel over others, to outsmart them, to make them subservient to her wishes play a crucial role in her control freak style. For example, every situation or interaction with her is viewed from the standpoint of “can I top his or her performance?” or “is this person trying to make ME look bad?  What can I do to protect myself?.”

Well she can cut your spiritual head off!

Today is my 30th anniversary as a minister.  Take my word for it. Churches are overrun with Elder Jones personality types, both male and female–people who need deliverance counseling.   If you are in their spiritual prison, the time to break out and escape to freedom  is NOW! Help is available at 518-477-5759.

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