Archive | November, 2014

Generational Curse? Or Is It a Family Secret?

8 Nov

Although we encounter secrets in every area of life, they are perhaps most destructive among parents and other relatives. Why? Because families are support systems. . Therefore, If family members keep secrets from each other–or from the outside world–the emotional fallout can last a lifetime. Fallen angels and demons will use secrets as a target to keep families in bondage for generations. What deliverance ministries are calling generational curses are really the power of family secrets to keep all its members in bondage. Expose the secret and expose the bondage.

There are five main ways that family secrets shape Us and put us in bondage.

1. they can divide family members, permanently estranging them;

2. they can discourage us from being open and honest with people outside of the family. in other words, the secret blocks us from trusting others.

3. they can freeze development at crucial points in life, preventing the growth of self and identity;

4. they can lead to painful relationships within a family, causing unnecessary guilt, resentment, shame and doubt.

5. They leave an open door to demons to consistently attack.

i remember a case where a secret almost destroyed a woman I write about called LAURA. LAURA was charismatic and she was also an addict. when I look back on it now, this prolific tongue talker was not even saved. Anyway, the secret that kept her drinking was that when she was single, she had a best friend who was dating this guy, who LAURA ended up marrying. The secret was that the two women were sleeping together as well. Laura’s friend left town before Laura and the guy got married. now she was planning to come back to town and Laura was afraid that the girlfriend would tell her husband that Laura had been a lesbian, sleeping with his own girlfriend.

This secret haunted Laura and caused her to continue to relapse. I would not know the secret if I did not dream about what had happened and confronted Laura about the dream. She broke down and revealed the truth. I told Laura to go on ahead and take the power out of the devil’s hands and tell her husband. She did, it all worked out. This was 1983. Laura broke up with that husband and married another, so all of that original guilt and shame was for nothing anyway, she is now a drug counselor herself with decades of sobriety under her belt.

When a family secret exposes others in a damaging way, to be set free from it, it needs to be exposed to someone that you really trust. The trusted person should be neutral, with no personal agendas connected to anyone involved. Preferably, the best person to reveal the secret to is a professional counselor. In deliverance counseling, I treat the problem created by the secret, making the whole generational curse approach unnecessary. So if you’ve got a secret the enemy is using against you, get help and call 518-477-5759.

Peace in a Stressful World

6 Nov

In one of my recent counseling sessions, a newly born again woman asked me a question. I was asked, how does the born-again differ from the rest of the world?

I did not have to ponder this question for too long a time as there is one major way. The PEACE of Christ’ …as Jesus Christ of Nazereth says in John 14:27…’Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you; not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid!

My client responded with these words.

This scripture has become so true to me …when I look back and see the extremely tortured troubled & traumatized mind I had and now experiencing the true meaning of SOUND MIND! My mind has come to a rest …just like entering into the Sabbath. “There remaineth therefore a rest to the people of God, For he that is entered into his rest, he also hath ceased from his own works, as God did from his” Hebrew 4:9-10

The peace of the world is so different, it may be a short lived like diverting your mind on a movie or recreational activities to have a short term good feelings or stuff like yoga, meditations, reiki etc… during a reiki session what I experienced was total blankness of mind and a feeling of swimming in the air and a short period of ‘no thoughts’ and then a sudden gushing of all the held back mental trauma.

However, The Peace of Christ is so true and it is a powerful experience not justified enough by words, for its like having a child-like mind once again!
And having experienced both, it becomes easy to detect early the tricks of the enemies to defy you again! It is this Peace that makes ‘Walking in Spirit’ easier and activates the ‘Armor of God’, sorting every issue and solving every problem unlike earlier, but in HIS own ways.. still keeping up the promise of His rest STILL!”

Certainly with the help of demons, stress is a major reason why captives are not set free. Stress is pressure that causes us to worry and fret. It is diametrically opposed to the words of the Lord, when He admonishes us to “FRET NOT!” Stress eats away at those who are vexed to a point that an irritation is birthed, that functions like a living organism. Stress becomes a tangled thing that can eats away or gnaws at you in spirit, soul and body like a tapeworm or even a CANCER.

Those who are stressed tend to also be nervous. They become easily excited, then agitated, then annoyed. Then paranoid.

The paranoia of the stressed leads to fear or apprehensive. Stressed people are filled with misgivings that cause them to be distrustful about their future, where the mind anticipates something unfavorable or even sinister is about to happen.

The opposite of stress is peace. When there is a lack of peace in someone who professes to be born again, my eyebrow is raised, because peace is an important fruit of the spirit.

A lack of peace is also an indication that trust and faith in God is out of reach. But on a carnal, everyday level, there are certain issues and conditions that contribute to stress.

I find that insecure people, which includes do gooders and people pleasers are often stressed. Nothing they do for others is ever enough. They start to harbor bad feelings against those they claim they once helped and cared for. Passive people just fall deeper and deeper in their own self created trap, while The aggressive ones are generally stressed because they are too self centered and ambitious. Narcissistic types are never satisfied with a blessing because they think they deserve so much more. So when they never receive in life what they expected, stress sets in and establishes a stronghold for the enemy to use to his advantage.

Then again, the wicked are often stressed. As it says in proverbs, the wicked flee when no one pursues but the righteous are as bold as a lion.

What is the root of the stress you have experienced in life?