In today’s society, we see a lot of competition and aspirations to be prettier, skinnier, stronger, healthier, wealthier, and not be like the average person.
Some people spend tons of money to get the closest to immortality and what they see as perfection. They want to be gods.
In religious rhetoric, all this is futile superficial worldly preoccupations. So what do they do ? They act like they are above all that by wearing voluntarily ugly clothes, not wearing makeup and demonizing people who do “”indulge”” in such behavior.
These people also want to be gods. By pretending to be above human superficial nature of loving to be approved, they really wish to ascend to God-like status. At least in the eyes of the church.
While it is pretty impossible and burdensome to crave this world’s perfection standards, it is as prideful to pretend to be above it. It is false guilt. Religious false guilt.
As a former catholic then adventist, I hid my body image issues and felt bad for caring about my looks. I threw away clothes that I liked, stopped caring about myself. I stopped being myself just to be “not like other humans”. Well, I am human.
Because our human nature is sinful and imperfect. We all have hidden desires, and if we are not born again it is just going to be ! And torturing yourself to approach what church tells you is God’s standards WITHOUT waiting for His Spirit to bring you to Jesus and change you in His Image by His timing is just impatient and as proud as men chasing immortality.
Do you have or had secret desires of being like a god out of impatience too ? Feel free to comment. If you want to be set free from any burden related to that, you can set up an appointment with Pastor Pam via phone ( 888-818-1117 ) or via email at psmontheweb@yahoo.com
According to Pastor Pam’s’ blog article, Demons Tie Souls Together in a Not so Tender Trap, a demonic or ungodly soul tie is like an invisible rope between two or more persons that fallen angels and demons can use to their advantage to cross or travel from one person to another. Some of the most common forms are between men and women who are having sex with each other.
From Pastor Pam’s article:
Holy, divine soul ties between married couples draw husbands and wives together like magnets, while soul ties between fornicators can draw a beaten and abused woman to the man who in the natural realm she would hate and run from, but instead she runs to him even though he doesn’t love her, and treats her like dirt.In the demonic world, unholy soul ties can serve as bridges between two people to pass demonic garbage through. Other soul ties can do things such as allow one person to manipulate and control another person, and the other person is unaware of what is going on or knows what is going on, but for no real reason, allows it to continue.
I can definitely relate to this, and I’m sure the majority of people have experienced this in one way or another. I was madly in love with one man for years. We were on and off for 10 years. He was a musician and could write these songs that would just grip your soul. He wasn’t much to look at, but he had local fans who were obsessed with him because of his music. I would listen to his CD’s for hours and hours and was obsessed with him. But he treated me like dirt – always had other women, would disappear and then reappear, etc. I hardly ever got to see him, because he was always “busy” (probably with other women), but he was always on my mind.
Whenever I’d get to actually see him, I’d get there and suddenly be kind of turned off. I’d find myself not being as physically attracted to him as I had imagined, and he was kind of obnoxious. It wouldn’t feel like how I’d pictured it the entire couple weeks I’d been dreaming about seeing him. But I’d disregard those feelings, because I had already made up my mind. Sometimes I’d hear bad things about him that, had it been anyone else, would have sent me running. For instance, he had worked at a coffee shop at one point. He left that job, and I later found out from one of his ex-coworkers that he’d been fired for stealing $2000. But it didn’t match up with the picture I had of him in my mind, so I would just push those types of things out of my mind.
He had me putting up with things and doing things I said I would never do. It was OK for him to sleep with other girls as long as it was understood who was his lady and who the side-pieces were. He wanted to do threesomes, and it wasn’t something I wanted to do, but to keep him happy, I agreed to it (we never got around to it). He let my parents’ house get foreclosed on because of one late payment that wouldn’t have been late if not for them having to pay for my $200 medicine, while meanwhile he was in Vegas throwing $10,000 in the air at a stripclub. I had held him down plenty of times when he was broke. This was the type of situation you cannot tell your girlfriends about, unless you want to get laughed at or cussed out. “Like, seriously, he will spend $10,000 on strippers and let you drown, yet you really think he is your boyfriend?”
So, to sum it up, he treated me bad and I really wasn’t even that attracted to him, but something kept me coming back for more. This is the type of thing a demonic soul tie can do – have you doing things that make no sense.
The thing is, the enemy sets you up to get in these situations. At the time, you are all turned on, and everything looks good to you. The mood might be right, and the man himself may look good to you, but if you could see the vile entities standing by just waiting for you to give it up, because they just need a way in, that state of arousal would be gone quick. You’d probably be so disgusted you would throw up.
There have been a few times even since I’ve been born again that my flesh has been tempted – either to go see one of my old male friends or to look at some porn and take care of myself. But all I have to do is remind myself what is really going on, and that kills that right then and there. I picture a scene not unlike the picture above, because that is truly what is going on.
I must admit that in the first 5 decades of my life, I did not particularly like women because in my world space, there were just too many meely mouthed, back stabbin female crabs in a barrel. And even though I had my issues with men as well, I liked them better and preferred their company and friendship to that of my own gender. In fact, when I was in my twenties and thirties, my best friends were gay. We could shop and do the hair, nails and dress up thing, but when I was pulled into a cat fight, their masculine strength would rescue me in a New York minute.
Now that I have been saved 34 years, with 30 years in ministry under my belt, I have really grown to love my sistahs and my sisters. Don’t know what I would do with out my crew. Yet, online, I have run into a wild, unruly bunch of professing Christian women who are like bulls or heifers in a China shop. I call them, “Holy Phony Silly Women!” They are constantly posting teaching material, yet claiming “oh, I am merely about Christian fellowship and I am not a teacher.I am simply “sharing.”
Holy Phony Silly women are those who think they can step out on the Internet—on Facebook, in chat rooms, by email, Skype, YouTube, you name it, they are out there from all over the world, buttin heads with Christian folk like wild heifers. The freedom of the world-wide web has mesmerized them to forget Pauls words—not to use liberty as a license to rebellion. Paul said it like this. “All things are expedient to me but all things are not lawful or helpful.”
Much too much that women are “teaching” and “preaching” on the web is not only NOT helpful, but it is harmful.
The bible also tells us to avoid silly women and unfortunately, in spite of my affection and concern for them, I have to turn away. It is not necessary to know a lot to teach. The issue is that what ya know— ya KNOW!— bottom-line is that what you teach should be without error.
One who teaches needs to be able to discern fact from truth, a hypothesis from a finding, a supposition from a conclusion. Yet women are on video clips and writing Facebook notes and tweeting about spiritual growth and end time matters. when they have not a clue. Then, when they are confronted, they angrily justify and defend themselves with,
“Oh, I am just a housewife. I am not teaching. I am just “spending quality time with my online friends. I am not as bold as YOU Pam, to say that I am a teacher. Oh no. I am not a teacher. I am just “having conversation.” For after all, I am too humble to appoint myself, as YOU have done. I have the fear of the Lord because I know that a woman is not supposed to teach. And I know that teachers receive the greater judgment and condemnation for teaching error!”
Holy Baloney!
This is that same ole slippery way that women deal with their husbands. You’ve played your manipulative games with him for so long,–letting him believe that he is running your home when you KNOW the truth is that YOU are!!! Consequently, you rationalize that you can also manipulate God and pretend that “you are not teaching YOUR interpretation of the word of God.
Let’s get real, Sisters. This is Holy Phoniness to the max. It stinks in my spiritual nostrils. You not only quote scripture, but you declare to people how they ought to worship and “get in the presence of the Lord,” whether or not to fast, how to fast and pray, —and even deeper–that there is no rapture, that Jesus is not literally coming back but that it is a “spiritual” return, that people should not prepare themselves for end times, that those who speak in tongues are going to hell, that Pentecostals are all unsaved heathens. That various folk are false prophets—I’ve heard a woman call them lunatics. And on and on it goes, day after day.
But this is not “teaching” you see! It is that great ole euphemism called “sweet fellowship with the saints and harmless, idle conversation” Oh, no. YOU not a teacher. Yeh!
To that, I say this. Consider the “technical virgins” of today. They believe themselves to be righteous because they have never experienced coitus by vaginal penetration, yet they masturbate 4 times a day to online porn or they are having anal and oral sex on a regular basis. “Look yall, I’m still a virgin. Yeh!
So I say to Holy Phony Silly Women. don’t think that God cannot distinguish between a euphemism and the real thing. He can tell the difference between Christian fellowship and teaching. You are TEACHING!
After 30 years in ministry, if I don’t know my calling BY NOW and if I am not bold enough to stand in it, then I am as Holy Phony as the rest of them..
Yes, I am a teacher. But I am also a pastor, an evangelist, a prophet and if I knew what an Apostle is today, I might be one of them too. I am not ashamed of my calling simply because I am a woman. Man did not call me. God did! Man has to live with what God has already done!
So “either teach, as WOMEN OF GOD, OR GET OFF THE POT, Sister!
If you decide to teach, I can train you in 3-6 months. You don’t have to affiliate with me and no one has to know that I am the one who “undeceived you” and you can go about your merry way. It won’t matter to me. My concern is for those who are following you that some of you are feeding error every day, yet taking no responsibility for your error for fear that God will condemn you for teaching.
He will condemn you for being a hypocrite. You are teaching because the Lord has called you to teach anf you are pretending not to be a teacher because you are a woman. Sounds like a Catch 22 to me.
Time is runnin out, Gurl! Humble yourself right now, Gurl, to the fact that you are teaching without proper training! Time is too short to be narrow-minded and petty. You need to get your act together, like yesterday! ASAP! WOMEN, YOU MUST NOT KEEP SILENT FOR YOU MUST TEACH. EITHER STAND UP AND TEACH BUT GET TRAINED FIRST.REBELLION IS A,S THE SIN OF WITCHCRAFT.
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Since preachers take scripture out of their natural context to preach a sermon, we do the same thing when we read, study and apply various texts to our particular situation, like occultist and new agers use astrology and other forms of divination. For example, some use Psalm 37 in the wrong way, particularly where it comes to dealing with enemies when Jesus told us to love our enemies in the 4 gospels.
Paul wrote to the Galatians that anyone who adds to or detracts from the word of God brings a curse or in other words, “a plague” on both the culprits and the victims they teach. Paul declared it THIS way: If any man preach any other gospel, other than what i have preached, LET HIM BE CURSED.” (Gal 1:9)
Two thousand years have passed since Paul’s rather serious proclamation. I am not a historian, but I would imagine that any church or religion professing to be Christian that either subtracts from or adds to the gospel of Jesus Christ has reaped the fruit of this curse, from one generation to another. Today, there are countless people who are being oppressed and tormented by demons because they are listening to those who are preaching “another gospel.”
In this generation, there are more false doctrines that have been created by preachin and teachin folk who either added to or took away from the gospel of Jesus Christ, than most people could count. Even in things that seem insignificant. Take for example, the verse in Luke 13, when Jesus healed a woman who had been crippled—bowed down by the devil for 18 years. After the Lord cast that demon of infirmity from her by healing her, He said “Woman, thou are loosed!”
Yet TD Jakes –an intelligent, well learned preacher— took the Lord’s words, and turned it into “somethin else.” In other words, he added to it a meaning that the Lord did not mean and he created a “Christian woman’s liberation movement out of it,” even made a movie—called it “Woman Thou Art Loosed,” a movie where a woman takes a gun while in church, and shoots a man who had raped her when she was a child,— at the very moment the man was touched and moving toward the altar to be saved. Now, that is adding to and detracting from the Lord’s own words to the max, and making millions of dollars out of the words that are written in the gospels concerning the Lord’s ministry of deliverance. What did the Lord mean by those words? He meant “woman you are no longer bound by a demon because I have just set you free from your arthritic condition. What does deliverance of a physically crippled woman from demons have to do with women’s liberation and shooting rapists in church?
These are the kinds of things professing Christians are doing EVERYDAY. They are adding to and detracting from the bible and wondering why they are in the devil’s hands.
We have a deliverance training course called SEW that you might be interested in. If so, give us a call at 518-477-5759.
Every prophet of God must submit to the refining fire of God to be fit for the task of ministry. In my case, God’s tools of my refinement were rejection and failure.
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Even though I was certainly spiritually abused as a pastor and an evangelist for more than two decades, I did not desire to “come out of her.” In fact, I was literally driven out of a well-known African American denominational church. In Come Out of Her, God’s People,” I really don’t reveal the details of my pastorate at two denominational churches. As I recollect, they were the years of my life when I felt most unloved and most unappreciated. The persecution that I endured at St. Matthew, Norwich NY and Dyer Phelps, Saratoga NY would take up too much time, and it really would do little to enhance this testimony. Simply put, I will sum up those horrible years by simply proclaiming that throughout my pastoral service and evangelistic labor in this particular denomination, it was the divine hand of God Who purposely set me up to be unsuccessful. For knowing myself as I do, if I had been successful in works of the flesh, I would be wretched, poor, blind and naked in my powerless comfort zone of denominational acquiescence.
Suffice it to say for now, that through three pastorates over a 25 year span, I submitted myself to the cross of the Savior, picked it up and followed Him. Now that I have been informed as to why I was sent not once but twice to the Denominational church, I now know why the Lord Himself allowed Satan to set me up to fail as one of Zion’s pastors. In this hour, I now realize that the circumstances that under girded each failure are not as important to my testimony as the recorded events in the book.
In fact, I believe that my failures in the denominational pastorate were definitely used by the Lord to renew my soul. In this regard, I learned to understand the hidden worth of my failures,— an invaluable spiritual truth that “the Pam without Christ” could never have perceived without the enlightenment of the Holy Spirit. In my fleshly nature I am an achiever, an assertive woman where failure is unacceptable. In fact, in my secular career, my all-male co-workers were known to admiringly describe me as a woman “with gonads.” I obtained this vivid and illustrious title because I was the only one among my peers who confronted issues in the agency that the men were either too intimidated or too fearful of reprisals to address.
Men simply do not expect or desire to acknowledge that a woman can or even should be bold and fearless. As such, when a woman stands up for truth, she must have two gonads rather than her own two breasts. In the secular world, I have never been the underdog. In fact, even though I have a soft, feminine side, in the world my natural womanhood was overshadowed by the strength of my survival instincts. Therefore, the dirt that was done to me by people who call themselves ‘Christian’, my carnal nature without Christ would have been so outraged that retaliation would definitely have been “in order!!!”
Enemies faced in the secular world knew that I had the capability of being a deadly adversary so when they came at me, they knew that they had “to come correct!” Therefore, as I look back at the weak, insecure people who the enemy used against me in the two Denominational churches that I pastored, I perceive that the Lord most assuredly used these failures to successfully cut the evil emotions of hatred, bitterness and un-forgiveness from my soul. I learned that in spite of what the sheep did to me, as a shepherd called by the Lord Jesus Christ to serve them, I could not fight them back. I could not harm or damage the Lord’s sheep.
Throughout 30 years in ministry and 35 years saved, the Lord repeatedly demonstrated to me that vengeance is His. Over the years I have watched Him repay as He allowed the plagues to overtake all of my enemies in the organized church. Consequently, although much could be written about several other professing Christians that the enemy used to try to discredit and destroy not only my ministry but the essence of my being, in “Come Out of Her, God’s People” I choose to only testify concerning those persons and situations that played a significant role in “the making of a prophet.” As I look back over 30 years of ministry, I realize that I have learned invaluable spiritual lessons and revelations by watching unto prayer. Like the prophets of old, I endured hardship like a good soldier. Sometimes hurt, almost crushed, but never destroyed. At least I didn’t get beheaded as did the prophet John the Baptist, although my spiritual head was on the chopping block more than once.
I must admit that in the first 5 decades of my life, I did not particularly like women because in my world space, there were just too many meely mouthed, back stabbin female crabs in a barrel. And even though I had my issues with men as well, I liked them better and preferred their company and friendship to that of my own gender. In fact, when I was in my twenties and thirties, my best friends were gay. We could shop and do the hair, nails and dress up thing, but when I was pulled into a cat fight, their masculine strength would rescue me in a New York minute.
Now that I have been saved 34 years, with 30 years in ministry under my belt, I have really grown to love my sistahs and my sisters. Don’t know what I would do with out my crew. Yet, online, I have run into a wild, unruly bunch of professing Christian women who are like bulls or heifers in a China shop. I call them, “Holy Phony Silly Women!” They are constantly posting teaching material, yet claiming “oh, I am merely about Christian fellowship and I am not a teacher.I am simply “sharing.”
Holy Phony Silly women are those who think they can step out on the Internet—on Facebook, in chat rooms, by email, Skype, YouTube, you name it, they are out there from all over the world, buttin heads with Christian folk like wild heifers. The freedom of the world-wide web has mesmerized them to forget Pauls words–-not to use liberty as a license to rebellion. Paul said it like this. “All things are expedient to me but all things are not lawful or helpful.”
Much too much that women are “teaching” and “preaching” on the web is not only NOT helpful, but it is harmful.
The bible also tells us to avoid silly women and unfortunately, in spite of my affection and concern for them, I have to turn away. It is not necessary to know a lot to teach.The issue is that what ya know— ya KNOW!— bottom-line is that what you teach should be without error.
One who teaches needs to be able to discern fact from truth, a hypothesis from a finding, a supposition from a conclusion. Yet women are on video clips and writing Facebook notes and tweeting about spiritual growth and end time matters. when they have not a clue. Then, when they are confronted, they angrily justify and defend themselves with,
“Oh, I am just a housewife. I am not teaching. I am just “spending quality time with my online friends. I am not as bold as YOU Pam, to say that I am a teacher. Oh no. I am not a teacher. I am just “having conversation.” For after all, I am too humble to appoint myself, as YOU have done. I have the fear of the Lord because I know that a woman is not supposed to teach. And I know that teachers receive the greater judgment and condemnation for teaching error!”
Holy Baloney!
This is that same ole slippery way that women deal with their husbands. You’ve played your manipulative games with him for so long,–letting him believe that he is running your home when you KNOW the truth is that YOU are!!! Consequently, you rationalize that you can also manipulate God and pretend that “you are not teaching YOUR interpretation of the word of God.
Let’s get real, Sisters. This is Holy Phoniness to the max. It stinks in my spiritual nostrils. You not only quote scripture, but you declare to people how they ought to worship and “get in the presence of the Lord,” whether or not to fast, how to fast and pray, —and even deeper–that there is no rapture, that Jesus is not literally coming back but that it is a “spiritual” return, that people should not prepare themselves for end times, that those who speak in tongues are going to hell, that Pentecostals are all unsaved heathens. That various folk are false prophets—I’ve heard a woman call them lunatics. And on and on it goes, day after day.
But this is not “teaching” you see! It is that great ole euphemism called “sweet fellowship with the saints and harmless, idle conversation” Oh, no. YOU not a teacher. Yeh!
To that, I say this. Consider the “technical virgins” of today. They believe themselves to be righteous because they have never experienced coitus by vaginal penetration, yet they masturbate 4 times a day to online porn or they are having anal and oral sex on a regular basis. “Look yall, I’m still a virgin. Yeh!
So I say to Holy Phony Silly Women. don’t think that God cannot distinguish between a euphemism and the real thing. He can tell the difference between Christian fellowship and teaching. You are TEACHING!
After 30 years in ministry, if I don’t know my calling BY NOW and if I am not bold enough to stand in it, then I am as Holy Phony as the rest of them..
Yes, I am a teacher. But I am also a pastor, an evangelist, a prophet and if I knew what an Apostle is today, I might be one of them too. I am not ashamed of my calling simply because I am a woman. Man did not call me. God did! Man has to live with what God has already done!
So “either teach, as WOMEN OF GOD, OR GET OFF THE POT, Sister!
If you decide to teach, I can train you in 3-6 months. You don’t have to affiliate with me and no one has to know that I am the one who “undeceived you” and you can go about your merry way. It won’t matter to me. My concern is for those who are following you that some of you are feeding error every day, yet taking no responsibility for your error for fear that God will condemn you for teaching.
He will condemn you for being a hypocrit. You are teaching because the Lord has called you to teach anf you are pretending not to be a teacher because you are a woman. Sounds like a Catch 22 to me.
Time is runnin out, Gurl!
Humble yourself right now, Gurl, to the fact that you are teaching without proper training! Time is too short to be narrowminded and petty. You need to get your act together, like yesterday! ASAP! WOMEN, YOU MUST NOT KEEP SILENT FOR YOU MUST TEACH. EITHER STAND UP AND TEACH BUT GET TRAINED FIRST.REBELLION IS AS THE SIN OF WITCHCRAFT.
Any Sister who FEELS A CALL TO TEACH, wise up and rise up—–, call me at 518-477-5759. I’ll hook you up!!!
Since preachers take scripture out of their natural context to preach a sermon, we do the same thing when we read, study and apply various texts to our particular situation, like occultist and new agers use astrology and other forms of divination. For example, some use psalm 37 in the wrong way, particularly where it comes to dealing with enemies when Jesus told us to love our enemies in the 4 gospels.
Paul wrote to the Galatians that anyone who adds to or detracts from the word of God brings a curse or in other words, “a plague” on both the culprits and the victims they teach. Paul declared it THIS way: If any man preach any other gospel, other than what i have preached, LET HIM BE CURSED.” (Gal 1:9)
Two thousand years have passed since Paul’s rather serious proclamation. I am not a historian, but I would imagine that any church or religion professing to be Christian that either subtracts from or adds to the gospel of Jesus Christ has reaped the fruit of this curse, from one generation to another. Today, there are countless people who are being oppressed and tormented by demons because they are listening to those who are preaching “another gospel.”
In this generation, there are more false doctrines that have been created by preachin and teachin folk who either added to or took away from the gospel of Jesus Christ, than most people could count. Even in things that seem insignificant. Take for example, the verse in Luke 13, when Jesus healed a woman who had been crippled—bowed down by the devil for 18 years. After the Lord cast that demon of infirmity from her by healing her, He said “Woman, thou are loosed!”
Yet TD Jakes –an intelligent, well learned preacher— took the Lord’s words, and turned it into “somethin else.” In other words, he added to it a meaning that the Lord did not mean and he created a “Christian woman’s liberation movement out of it,” even made a movie—called it “Woman Thou Art Loosed,” a movie where a woman takes a gun while in church, and shoots a man who had raped her when she was a child,— at the very moment the man was touched and moving toward the altar to be saved. Now, that is adding to and detracting from the Lord’s own words to the max, and making millions of dollars out of the words that are written in the gospels concerning the Lord’s ministry of deliverance. What did the Lord mean by those words? He meant “woman you are no longer bound by a demon because I have just set you free from your arthritic condition. What does deliverance of a physically crippled woman from demons have to do with women’s liberation and shooting rapists in church?
These are the kinds of things professing Christians are doing EVERYDAY. They are adding to and detracting from the bible and wondering why they are in the devil’s hands.
We have a deliverance training course called SEW that you might be interested in. If so, give us a call at
Normal strivings for power in a believer are motivated by a sincere desire to be used by God to deliver those in the kingdom of this world so that they might enter the kingdom of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ of Nazareth. What distinguishes normal inclinations from obsessions is that demonic striving for power is often rooted in fear, hatred and feelings of inferiority. A passive-aggressive control freak wears a phony mask.
Let’s bring it down home to where we all live. Racism is a cultural factor that involves hatred and fear. . When the predominant culture is in fear of losing its power and even worse, becoming extinct, demons of fear, hatred and pride conjoin with the witchcraft demon to control, dominate and suppress those of another race or culture. Then there are those who feel insecure mentally and emotionally who strive for power as a means to protect themselves from anxiety and from a feeling of helplessness.
The religious demon is also attracted to a soul that feels very insignificant. Those who have been consistently oppressed will develop a rigidity and an unbalanced “super strength” which makes them think and act as if they can master any situation in their own power. Such a person will pretend that he is leaning and trusting on the Lord’s power by spouting scripture like “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”, yet within his soul he considers any weakness as a disgrace and he is steeped in pride. For example, he judges other saints as being weak, when in reality, he himself feels weak and insignificant. This is fertile ground for demons and devils because they can use the captive to intimidate the weaker brethren and to cause the control freak to feel condemned. When the control freak feels condemn, WATCH OUT FOLK! The ruling entity will cause the control freak to despise himself when he has fallen. When the control freak despises himself, EVERYBODY is a target!
The control freak will demand to know every detail of even the most insignificant situations. When he or she has not been informed of EVERYTHING, extreme agitation sets it which a passive-aggressive control freak will be skilled at hiding from others. People with this character flaw can appear to be extremely generous. No one may even notice his desire to dominate and control because the captive is so subtly manipulative. Usually in such cases, a lying demon is involved also. People who appear to be submissive and giving will surprise you with how manipulative they can be. For example, when you righteously confront them with issues that are important to YOU , they avoid the issue at hand by simply responding with counter accusations, whether they be true or not. All confrontation, no matter how small or insignificant, causes them to perceive you as THE ENEMY.
Secular psychoanalysts would agree that constant striving for superiority or “one upsmanship” is at the center of the narcissistic personality, forming a stronghold that is very difficult to shake or even to weaken. The question to as is “What is at the root of the constant striving?” In some cases, it is an unconscious sense of inferiority. Such people are in a perpetual search for something that will make them feel more personally competent and they get a temporary satisfaction in dominating others by outshining them.
Elder Jones was of this sort. A dark-skinned African-American, Elder Jones was born and raised in the segregated south. Too many times did she expose the fact that she felt inferior because of her skin color. So she compensated. In the denomination, Elder Jones became the FIRST woman regional administrator in 150 years. So once she obtained this noteworthy position, why would she unnecessarily place herself in competition with her immediate predecessor, and determine that she would outshine him? Why would she continue to try to outdo all of the ministers that she now had oversight power over? It made no logical sense.
For example, a church lost its pastor in the middle of the year and a temporary appointment was in order. Elder Jones had 5 ministers available to her to pick from. Did she select one of them? No. She selected herself, even though she already was pastoring a church when it is the normal policy for someone in her position to relinquish the role of pastor entirely. So she became the pastor of not one church but two, also remained the regional administrator, with 10 other churches and pastors under her watch care. Once she appointed herself pastor of the second church, the members passively rebelled by not attending on Sunday mornings, a mistake on their part. Elder Jones used her power as the right hand of the Bishop to recommend that this 100 year old church be closed and the Bishop acted upon her recommendation. The church is NO MORE!
Passive-aggressive people can be very dangerous in uncountable ways. The truth will set them free but the truth hurts them to much. Pride causes people to not want to admit that they are suffering from feelings of inferiority that cause them to “lord it over” others. This is a most serious situation. Not only are these types at risk of perdition, when they obtain positions of power and authority, they are dangerous. Control freaks are particularly dangerous because they DO have a form of godliness because they behavior is eccessively polite, and they are very skilled at feigned poise in their strivings for position and power. The central issue of a control freak is domination and control. Elder Jones strong desire for power is masked by her being “a good person.” So she uses her good character to be in a position of unchallenged prominence and prestige. The dangerous element of the woman is that she feels herself to be surrounded on all sides by competition for the ascendency that she herself craves. As a result, her strong need to outshine or excel over others, to outsmart them, to make them subservient to her wishes play a crucial role in her control freak style. For example, every situation or interaction with her is viewed from the standpoint of “can I top his or her performance?” or “is this person trying to make ME look bad? What can I do to protect myself?.”
Well she can cut your spiritual head off!
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Well, it is when a religious demon sets up a relationship for the sole intent of entrapment. The world calls it a “codependent relationship.” In deliverance, we call it a demonic or unholy soul tie. One person is usually the perpetrator and the other is the victim. Who knits their souls together? A fallen angel with the help of a demon or two.
Holy, divine soul ties between married couples draw husbands and wives together like magnets, while soul ties between fornicators can draw a beaten and abused woman to the man who in the natural realm she would hate and run from, but instead she runs to him even though he doesn’t love her, and treats her like dirt.In the demonic world, unholy soul ties can serve as bridges between two people to pass demonic garbage through. Other soul ties can do things such as allow one person to manipulate and control another person, and the other person is unaware of what is going on or knows what is going on, but for no real reason, allows it to continue.
With women who are called to be special handmaidens for the Lord, the best strategy of a religious fallen angel is to ensnare her into a demonic soul tie. A demonic or ungodly soul tie is like an invisible rope between two or more persons that fallen angels and demons can use to their advantage to cross or travel from one person to another. Ungodly soul ties are not only romantic or sexual in nature because they can also be formed with parents, relatives and friends. In any case, captives to a demonic soul tie find themselves uncontrollably attracted to someone who either hurts them, or who is in no way interested in them.
Both men and women under the influence of a demonic soul ties act like obsessed “love slaves.” To acknowledge that the relationship is not mutually beneficial is an understatement. Usually the satanic agent’s target is most always the giver in the relationship, where his or her partner is used by evil spirit to violate the captive’s conscience and to manipulate its target to do something that is against his or her will. Most often, the captive is manipulated through the anger, temper tantrums, guilt trips and even threats from a lover or spouse who is unknowingly in the hands of devils and demons. This is not a union made in heaven. It is actually a defiled marriage bed, joined together by the enemy.
I stumbled on to a method of deliverance that when first introduced, shocked me to my toes. Led by the Holy Ghost, I called the spirit by the name of the demonic oppressor and to my utter amazement, it manifested, just like a demon. In other words, a woman I’ll call Lucy in a demonic soul tie with a man named Frank, I rebuked it by saying, “Frank, I command you to come out of Lucy’s in the Name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth and the thing roared out of Lucy’s mouth like a demon.” Nine times out of ten, I call a demon by the perpetrator’s name, the exact same thing happens.
Well, why did this happen?. I’ll hazard a guess. Frank has demons. When Lucy had sex with him, she became vulnerable to Frank’s demons, especially if Lucy has a passive nature. The demons in Frank used his spirit as a means to “climb up and into Lucy.” I’ve seen such a thing manifest several times since, so the first person was not an isolated case.
I myself did not have a demonic soul tie with any of my husbands. However, I remember a boyfriend who was a corrupt minister that I write about in “Come Out of Her, God’s People.” To summarize, uncharacteristic of me, I found myself stuck on stupid over this man. He did me “a lot of dirt” yet I couldn’t shake him. Yet the Holy Ghost cast that demon off of me. Here is what happened: “
“Then one night, one of the strangest things happened to me.
THE HOLY GHOST WASHED A LOT OF MEN OUTTA MY HAIR! LOL
It reminds me of the old tune that goes “I’m gonna wash that man right outta my hair.” It was so supernatural that I don’t even have adequate words to describe what happened. All I can say is that I awoke in the middle of the night when an un-earthly wind blew into my bedroom and settled on my chest. I call this strange suction cup “The Holy Ghost Vacuum Cleaner.” As I lay on my back, all of the feelings and emotions that I had for this man were literally sucked out of me. The demonic soul tie was instantly broken.”
When I was an unsaved atheist, God actually did join me in marriage. I also had sense enough to pick a man who was compatible to me in every way. Although my first husband died of a massive heart attack when he was very young, he left me with a jewel, the most important person in my life—my daughter who today is invaluable on so many levels. However, once I became a Christian, I lost ALL good commonsense, assuming that I could not serve God unless I was joined to a Christian man.
Like all stories, mine can be long and involved so suffice me to put things “in a nutshell.”The enemy had convinced me that I was called to prison ministry. In fact, a bald headed, huge and muscular Mr. Clean looking being came forth in a dream and bellowed at me, “I am an angel sent from God to show you your future.”The “angel” sat me down at a blueprint table and showed me a plan for several huge facilities to house prisoners and substance abusers. At the time, my uncle had promised me 300 acres of land so it “all tied together” in a neat little package. The angel also said “The man you will marry will head up the entire project. You will provide the spiritual and counseling component.”
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This dream was then used to draw me into marriages–with not one but two different men with serious felony records–both men sent to destroy me. The first marriage was 3 years later to Billy G., in 1988 and the second marriage in 1996 to Richard C. Billy was married already but he was in prison. I had dated him in 1979 when he was free , not knowing that he was he was married even then. So one day I went to visit him in prison. Immediately after the visit, a power came on me so strong, with the message “Billy is THE ONE.” Six months later, we were married in prison. I thought he was going to be released soon, not knowing that Billy had TWO consecutive sentences which totaled 27 years. That was 1988. He was released from prison in December 2010 lived for 5 months and then died of a sudden stroke.
The bottom line is that the marriage was an 8 year nightmare. Believe it or not, I was beat down by Billy in prison, while on a conjugal visit, on more than just one occasion. I would walk out of prison with a busted lip and other abrasions and lacerations. I thought I was marrying a Christian, when Billy turned out to be a New Age occultist, an amateur warlock who told me that “he had chains and gates on my soul.”
No he didn’t. On May 10, 1990, Billy predicted that I would have a car accident in 2 weeks. Thirteen days later, my car was hit in the back, while I was on my way to the hospital because of the stress headache that I had for 2 weeks following his “prediction”. I did not take his prediction seriously, yet interestingly enough, the headache started the day he spoke his curse. On May 24, 1990, I was on a 4 lane highway, in the middle of the day, driving about 65 miles an hour, headed for the hospital when my car was hit but not totalled. The power of God came on me and I drove that car like a racecar driver. When I drove my wreck to the hospital, I discovered that my blood pressure was approaching stroke level.
I broke out of Billy’s barbed wire fence with a chronic case of hypertension.
Then I met Richard, the love of my life. We met briefly and I told him about my dream from the angel. Richard had architect skills, so shortly after we met, he constructed a fantastic blueprint. I thought he was “the ONE” cause he could oversee building the first site. RICHARD ALSO was NOT the one. Rich was even worst than Billy, if that could be possible. That was a 9 year nightmare with a heroin addict, a criminal with an anti-social personality.
But the light broke through the darkness and I was set free from Richard by the hand of God.
As an aside— Believe it or not, —Billy sent me a letter two months before his release from prison, an obvious invitation to “resume our marriage once he was released.” I spoke with him once, a few days after he was released. I was polite but I was firm. He died 5 months later of a stroke, 21 years to the day that he spoke a curse of death upon me. May 10, 2011. He was buried on Friday, the 13th. Was that the stroke that Billy had intended for me with his 13 day prediction? God knows.
What you need to know in all of this is that “if the enemy worked something against you and “IT WORKED,” HE WILL TRY AND TRY AGAIN, EVEN USING THE SAME PEOPLE, PLACES AND THINGS.
The lessons that I learned are not really for me. I have the luxury of age, where I can look back over the last 40 years and see that after the death of my first husband, there was no man in God’s plan for me. In this hour, I must press forward. The “I’m waiting for my soul mate days” are OVER. Not that I don’t love men and romance because I certainly do. I just have other priorities today and unfortunately, I have assessed what I desire to do with the rest of my days and “a significant other” is just not in my plans. I can’t take the risk.
I think the message that I have to pass on to the brethren are summarized in 10 statements:
1. Don’t just assume that because you are sensual, romantic, excellent spouse material, that there is a husband in your future. Man was not made for woman. It is good for him, not to be alone. Any man who wants a wife can have one. However, a woman can be alone and do well.
2. God did not call anyone “in a team.” The work that God has for YOU to do as a woman may not require you to have a husband. Co-ministry can be rich and rewarding. However, as a minister for 25 years within the religious system, I have met my share of miserable pastor’s wives. The grass is not always greener on the other side.
3. If you are in bondage to your desire for a mate, the enemy will take advantage of this weakness, time and time again. You must overcome the cultural cues embedded EVERYWHERE that you are less than a woman, without a man or without children.
4. Certainly, fornication is a sin. However, do not marry anyone JUST to avoid sex outside of marriage. If you slipped and got pregnant, DO NOT MARRY THE MAN SOLELY FOR THE SAKE OF THE CHILD.
5. THE ENEMY NEVER GIVES UP ON THIS. I thought that at my age, I am far “under the radar,” yet men seem “TO FIND ME, ONE WAY OR THE OTHER.” Even my 88 year old mother has still not gotten over her desire to have a man. So don’t think that you’ll simply “age out.” Not so.
6. Learn to enjoy the simple things of life. Don’t covet what others have. Learn to love being single. Be thankful that you woke up this morning in your right mind. Learn to love yourself. Love your body because its YOURS and not because you desire to seduce a partner with it.
7. If marriage is for you, develop yourself into the kind of wife that is going to be a blessing to a man. Don’t expect PRINCE CHARMING unless you are PRINCESS CHARMING. Don’t depend upon what a man can do for you.
8. Don’t settle for anything less than WHO you are. In fact, since a man’s ego is essential to his being, make sure that he knows who he is and where he is going.
9. The bible was written for and by a generation that for the most part, was not promiscuous. In other words, “virgins were the norm.” I have counseled with clients who were technically virgins, yet in the spirit, they were not. Too much experimentation. A virgin is a rare species in our time. When sex has been entered into, the body desires more. It is just a natural thing. The body will burn for it. So don’t let Satan condemn you just because you have natural passions. You can learn ways how to “bring your passions under submission to your own will.”
10. Last but certainly not least, if you have a dream, a vision or receive a prophetic message which declares that “this is the person for you sent by God,” run like a bat out of hell. It’s the devil. God does not choose our mates. He leaves it up to our own free will. Don’t just take an isolated case out of the old testament. You are not Isaac or Rebecca.
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