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When Prince Charming is a Narcissist!

9 Dec

By Pam Sheppard

I have known a lot of men in my day, both professionally and personally. There were many narcissists among them, even among the weak and most passive ones.  I met my first husband in 1967.  My best friend, Garry treated me like a queen for 3 years.  Its a long story but I will simply say “he died young.” 

Looking back, I was stuck on stupid from 1974-2005 about this soul mate thing and I tried to nurture a lot of NARCS back to sound mental health. That only works in a counselor to client relationship. I have learned from hard knocks that to avoid co-dependency, “do not try to counsel YOUR man.” He will only end up hating you.

so Count girls. I looked for Prince Charming for a total of 31 years. Some of you are not even 31 years old yet.

So take it from an old gal who travelled the romantic yellow brick road for a long time. Actually, I realized on the day that I had my final divorce papers in my hand from my third marriage, that the search was over. I had an “ah ha” moment of ” Oh well, I guess there was no soul mate, no Prince Charming for me after all!!!!.” !

In 2005, I was a ripe young age of 62, about to receive my social security!

Why did I allow the prophecy of a psychic astrologer and the religiosity of the church to wrongly use scripture and cause me to sit around waiting like a fool for 31 years for a man who never made an appearance? ?” Well, the deed is done and I don’t cry over spilt milk!!

But that’s nothin when I share the stories of my mother and my favorite aunt. My mother lived to be 92. At the age of 87, she had me searching the web for HER prince charming, a man by the name of Charles Collins, the lost love that got away and married somebody else!. I searched diligently with no results . He is either dead or in a nursing home. That is not all, My mother’s sister was married for more than 50 years, yet while a widow, she hit 80 and met a fabulous, good-looking man about her own age and it looked like life begins at 80. Unfortunately, he died of a massive heart attack on Thanksgiving and she was so grieved, she succumbed to cancer and died a month later.

Now when I was a young, unsaved woman in my early 20’s , I was quite cynical. Tough, you might say. I was the one who “refused to commit,” not the men. I saw too much infidelity around me to even desire to be married. I protected my heart and I was successful. Then in 1974, I was set up on the Prince Charming thing by a psychic astrologer whose name was Norvell. Norvell sold me a bill of goods and I bought into it, hook line and sinker for the next 31 years. Now that, Dear Heart, is being STUCK ON STUPID BY a demon who used Norvell to send me that lying prophecy. Norvell even described the man in some detail. He told me that we would be “working together” in a grand career.

While a state government ambitious striver, I looked for Prince Charming among the lawyers and the professional men. Once I entered into ministry in 1981, well there were scores of ministers to consider, many who set their eyes upon me. However, a fallen angel took the baton from Norvell and revealed to me in a dream that since I was entering into addiction therapy, recovery and prison ministry, my soul mate was a felon in recovery, who had become a born again Christian. So I married not one felon, but TWO.

While holding on to my last husband and trying to have a child in my late 50’s, the Lord spoke audibly and said, both of your husbands were sent to you by the devil to destroy you.” I gave those 2 dudes a total of 17 years of my life!

So as I stood there in 2004 with the divorce papers in my hand, I got “un-stuck” from being stupid, quite happy that I did not have a child at the age of 58!!!.

Here is a tidbit of info that could help you from “gettin stuck.”

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Once I let the “Prince Charming” Fantasy die, I lost all stress and just relaxed. I look better now than I did 25 years ago. This is me in the summer of 2018, at the age of 74. I am now 75.

Just because you are attractive and you have sexual desire, and you believe that anything you ask God for He will provide simply because YOU want it, remember me. The bible says that it is not good for a man to be alone and that he should have a wife. The bible does not say the same for a woman.

You, Sistah and Sister can be alone. When I was young and dumb, I could not even think of being without a man. It was too heavy a thought for me back then. But now that I have 40 years to look back over, I was always alone anyway, with the Lord I have survived, became wise, and I am filled with peace and joy WITHOUT a man!!! LOL. I do my own thing, Gurl!!! lol. Cook and clean when I feel like it. In fact, I have a housekeeper who cleans for ME!

I don’t unpack no man’s baggage today. I have not done so since 2004. Now I don’t knock YOU if you have a good man, My Sister. I say, right on to you! I am not speaking to you. I am speaking to the one who has been putting her life on hold in God, waiting for Mr. Right.

Honey, the devil plans to send you “Mr. Wrong!”

If you have something to do for the Lord, don’t let the devil suggest to you that you can’t serve Jesus Christ of Nazareth without a partner. It is a lie from hell. Another thing, if you are sitting around continually  praying and waiting on God to SEND you a man, it is quite possible that the devil will answer your prayer and send you a religious narcissist. If you want a man, know yourself, decide what you want, and hold interviews!!! Do not settle for less than what is compatible and needful for YOU!!!

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“I Need A Word From God…” Part 1

6 Feb

“Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God…” ( Matthew 4:4)

We all have been here, at that pivotal moment in our lives where we literally NEEDED a word FROM THE LORD.  Those who are truly hungry for God have been at a place where we have been starving for a Word from God.  And rightfully so….God said those who hunger and thirst after righteousness SHALL be filled.

Yet, we all have been at that place where we have NOT been able to hear from God…or we felt that we needed ‘confirmation’ from the Lord regarding ‘a word’ either we ourselves have heard, or a word given to us from others.

This is the reason many are (I can say) literally addicted to church, to sermons, to conferences, to conference calls, to convocations…

Addiction is NEVER a good thing.  I know BeBe and CeCe came out with a ‘gospel’ song years ago called ‘Addictive Love’ and it’s supposed to be talking about how we as believers are addicted to the love of Jesus Christ.

I know we have been saying this cliché for years in the church that they are ‘addicted’ to ‘the word,’ when really they are addicted to CHURCH.  Because the only time they get any ‘word’ is when they are inside of a building being fed ‘a word’ from a man or a woman.

But addiction can be a dangerous thing, even in a spiritual connotation.

If we are not careful, we will become ‘addicted’ to miracles, signs, wonders, and FALSE words said to be from God.  We can be addicted to the supernatural, never questioning THE SOURCE.

Where did this need for ‘confirmation’ of a word that proceeds out of the mouth of God come from?

Do you remember Gideon in the Bible?

Read up on the story of Gideon in Numbers 6.  To make a long story short, Gideon heard from the Lord…yet in verse 17, he turns around RIGHT AFTER hearing from God and asks for a SIGN!

You know…in the Old Testament, God had to deal with people with signs and wonders because MOST of the Israelites simply could NOT hear from God for themselves.  So the Israelites depended a LOT upon others to bring them the Word of the Lord.  This was because Israel stayed in rebellion and disobedience TO GOD almost more than they walked in obedience to God.

Disobedience will MUTE your ability to hear from GOD!

And walking in continued disobedience gives people over to strong delusion!

I can remember one time I was parked in a parking lot, needing a ‘WORD FROM THE LORD.’

Funny thing was it was regarding whether  or not I should stay at a church I was attending (that’s when I was still part of the organized church system).  I had just gotten off work and was bone tired and I had to preach that night.

I heard a voice so clear…”That is your church home.  I have a work for you to do there….”  Then this voice went onto tell me “…and the pastor is your husband…”

I won’t lie to you:  I did a Sarah when ‘God’ said that…LOL.  Yes, I laughed!  I was like ‘there is NO way that that man is my husband!  He is 15 years my junior…my oldest son is almost his age!’  Then some other things were said about how we were going to build ministry together, blah, blah, blah….

I got a LOT of confirmation on that ‘word’ from several different sources.  We would go to churches and people would prophesy marriage to us both. MANY ‘prophetesses’ and ‘prophets’ prophelied about how we were going to take the city.  The co-pastor of the church even came to me to ‘counsel’ me on several occasions to prep me for marriage to this pastor (who also happened to be her son!)

That word I got in that parking lot led me to stay with that church for a total of 5 years.  And we didn’t end up marrying:  come to find out he was on the DL…and had an incurable STD, all while STILL pastoring that ‘church.’

When that lying spirit of Baal saw that I was not going to fall for that, he sent a ( false) prophetess to this same church to prophelie to an armorbearer and the pastor -a ‘prophecy’ that set off a chain of events that would eventually lead to a church scandal and the pastor marrying a 19-year old…they are still ‘married’ and have a son.  And he is still in his lifestyle, and the young girl plays along as the dutiful first lady of the church…

And the prophetess of Baal that lied to those two has a church of her own now, too.

Let me tell you something:  there is a false spirit out there that knows the desires of our hearts.  It knows what we crave and desire the most.  No secret:  most of us go crying on the altar or blabbing on Facebook how bad we want a mate, or a ministry, or a car or a house.  So the devil heard your prayers.  So now all he got to do is send a prophet of Baal to lie to you, tell you what you want.  And then we get fooled into thinking these prophets of Baal are really from God because what they said does come true.

That is not the only prerequisite of knowing if someone is a TRUE prophet of God or not.

A TRUE prophet of God is not only going to be able to tell the future-fortune tellers can do that.  A TRUE prophet is going to utter what THUS SAITH THE LORD and THAT ONLY.  A TRUE prophet of God is going to be soaked in OBEDIENCE TO GOD.

When we get hooked on needing confirmation of words from God and seeking after a sign, we are treading on DANGEROUS territory.  VERY DANGEROUS.  Because the enemy mimics EVERYTHING God does.   The enemy can do signs, perform miracles, prophesy, speak in tongues, dance.

So if your diet of the Word of God is more of ‘I-gotta-see-a-sign-I-gotta-see-a-move-I-need-a-confirmation,’ then you are subject to be deceived by the devil.

STOP SEEKING CONFIRMATIONS!!!!

The Word says MY SHEEP KNOW MY VOICE AND A STRANGER THEY WILL NOT FOLLOW in John 10.

Learn to crack open the Word of God, study, get in the Presence of God and learn to Hear from God for YOURSELF.

Needing confirmations is a sign of YOUR UNBELIEF and LACK OF FAITH.  AND LACK OF RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD.  If you are not hearing the voice of God, then you are NOT HIS SHEEP.

The people in the Old Testament stayed in rebellion and disobedience, which is why they could never hear God for themselves.  So that’s why you always saw folks asking other folks to tell them what God said.  And the Holy Ghost was not yet given, so they had to rely on others…

But God promised there would come a time when He would write His Commandments on the tables of OUR HEARTS (Jeremiah 31:33).

That way when we sin, the law that is NOT DONE AWAY WITH, but WRITTEN IN OUR HEARTS, would convict us of sin…and-if one is submissive to the work of the Holy Ghost in their lives-will repent of sin.

An unrepentant heart can NEVER hear from God.

I repeat:  AN UNREPENTANT HEART CAN NEVER HEAR FROM GOD!

The only thing that that person will hear is God telling him to repent.  And if he waits TOO long to repent, the Word says God will give him over to a reprobate mind.

So I said all that to say this one thing:  if you need a word from God, make sure there is no unrepentant sin in your life or that you’re NOT walking in pride, disobedience or rebellion.  Because once you do, that’s when a deceiving spirit will come in and tell you THUS SAITH THE LORD…

And MOST OF THE TIME-IF NOT ALL THE TIME-those words and any accompanying ‘confirmations’ will ALL BE A LIE from the PIT OF HELL!!!!  SENT TO DESTROY YOU!!!!!

HE THAT HATH AN EAR LET HIM HEAR WHAT THE SPIRIT OF GOD IS SAYING….

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Are you hungry and thirsty for the WORD OF GOD, but long to learn to study for yourself?

Do you long to no longer be tainted by religion when hearing from God?  Do you want to make sure the Words you are hearing are not filtered through religious sifters?

Click here for resources that teach YOU how to hear CLEARLY from God for yourself!

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