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When Prince Charming is a Narcissist!

9 Dec

By Pam Sheppard

I have known a lot of men in my day, both professionally and personally. There were many narcissists among them, even among the weak and most passive ones.  I met my first husband in 1967.  My best friend, Garry treated me like a queen for 3 years.  Its a long story but I will simply say “he died young.” 

Looking back, I was stuck on stupid from 1974-2005 about this soul mate thing and I tried to nurture a lot of NARCS back to sound mental health. That only works in a counselor to client relationship. I have learned from hard knocks that to avoid co-dependency, “do not try to counsel YOUR man.” He will only end up hating you.

so Count girls. I looked for Prince Charming for a total of 31 years. Some of you are not even 31 years old yet.

So take it from an old gal who travelled the romantic yellow brick road for a long time. Actually, I realized on the day that I had my final divorce papers in my hand from my third marriage, that the search was over. I had an “ah ha” moment of ” Oh well, I guess there was no soul mate, no Prince Charming for me after all!!!!.” !

In 2005, I was a ripe young age of 62, about to receive my social security!

Why did I allow the prophecy of a psychic astrologer and the religiosity of the church to wrongly use scripture and cause me to sit around waiting like a fool for 31 years for a man who never made an appearance? ?” Well, the deed is done and I don’t cry over spilt milk!!

But that’s nothin when I share the stories of my mother and my favorite aunt. My mother lived to be 92. At the age of 87, she had me searching the web for HER prince charming, a man by the name of Charles Collins, the lost love that got away and married somebody else!. I searched diligently with no results . He is either dead or in a nursing home. That is not all, My mother’s sister was married for more than 50 years, yet while a widow, she hit 80 and met a fabulous, good-looking man about her own age and it looked like life begins at 80. Unfortunately, he died of a massive heart attack on Thanksgiving and she was so grieved, she succumbed to cancer and died a month later.

Now when I was a young, unsaved woman in my early 20’s , I was quite cynical. Tough, you might say. I was the one who “refused to commit,” not the men. I saw too much infidelity around me to even desire to be married. I protected my heart and I was successful. Then in 1974, I was set up on the Prince Charming thing by a psychic astrologer whose name was Norvell. Norvell sold me a bill of goods and I bought into it, hook line and sinker for the next 31 years. Now that, Dear Heart, is being STUCK ON STUPID BY a demon who used Norvell to send me that lying prophecy. Norvell even described the man in some detail. He told me that we would be “working together” in a grand career.

While a state government ambitious striver, I looked for Prince Charming among the lawyers and the professional men. Once I entered into ministry in 1981, well there were scores of ministers to consider, many who set their eyes upon me. However, a fallen angel took the baton from Norvell and revealed to me in a dream that since I was entering into addiction therapy, recovery and prison ministry, my soul mate was a felon in recovery, who had become a born again Christian. So I married not one felon, but TWO.

While holding on to my last husband and trying to have a child in my late 50’s, the Lord spoke audibly and said, both of your husbands were sent to you by the devil to destroy you.” I gave those 2 dudes a total of 17 years of my life!

So as I stood there in 2004 with the divorce papers in my hand, I got “un-stuck” from being stupid, quite happy that I did not have a child at the age of 58!!!.

Here is a tidbit of info that could help you from “gettin stuck.”

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Once I let the “Prince Charming” Fantasy die, I lost all stress and just relaxed. I look better now than I did 25 years ago. This is me in the summer of 2018, at the age of 74. I am now 75.

Just because you are attractive and you have sexual desire, and you believe that anything you ask God for He will provide simply because YOU want it, remember me. The bible says that it is not good for a man to be alone and that he should have a wife. The bible does not say the same for a woman.

You, Sistah and Sister can be alone. When I was young and dumb, I could not even think of being without a man. It was too heavy a thought for me back then. But now that I have 40 years to look back over, I was always alone anyway, with the Lord I have survived, became wise, and I am filled with peace and joy WITHOUT a man!!! LOL. I do my own thing, Gurl!!! lol. Cook and clean when I feel like it. In fact, I have a housekeeper who cleans for ME!

I don’t unpack no man’s baggage today. I have not done so since 2004. Now I don’t knock YOU if you have a good man, My Sister. I say, right on to you! I am not speaking to you. I am speaking to the one who has been putting her life on hold in God, waiting for Mr. Right.

Honey, the devil plans to send you “Mr. Wrong!”

If you have something to do for the Lord, don’t let the devil suggest to you that you can’t serve Jesus Christ of Nazareth without a partner. It is a lie from hell. Another thing, if you are sitting around continually  praying and waiting on God to SEND you a man, it is quite possible that the devil will answer your prayer and send you a religious narcissist. If you want a man, know yourself, decide what you want, and hold interviews!!! Do not settle for less than what is compatible and needful for YOU!!!

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Excerpt From “Faces of the Religious Demon.” Pg 89-91

22 Nov

Written by Pastor Pam Sheppard

The Narcissistic Personality and Spiritual Strangeness

When bordering on mental illness, a phrase that I have coined called “spiritual strangeness”can manifest in deep depression, the hearing of voices, visual appearances that are invisible to others and manifestations of narcissistic personality disorders of different varieties. (Where the demon of Jezebel is concerned, at the core of the mental illness is a pride system that reinforces false or counterfeit religious beliefs and practices. Psychic phenomena like telekinesis and astral travel emanate from the witchcraft side of the face of Jezebel.

As such, when supernatural manifestations are present, the spirit of Jezebel is generally the lead demon. The Jezebel demon is also at the root of self absorption, where legalism, perfectionism and self righteousness will progressively debilitate
the soul. I suspected that previously mentioned 92 year old Bertha was also personality disordered, particularly as it relates to her perfectionism and the confusion and despondency she experienced when even mildly challenged or suspected of being in error. Although Bertha manifested symptoms of perfectionism, a more classic influence of the face of Jezebel is more clearly evident in a professing Christian whose name I have changed to Pearl.

Claiming to be a doctor of holistic medicine, Pearl contacted me by email with a rather desperate and impertinent cry for a deliverance from an alleged physical infirmity that she believed to be demonic. She reported that she was without any physical strength, continuing to cough, vomit and remained without appetite. By virtue of her New Age profession alone, I was immediately aware that the spirit of witchcraft was definitely unmistakable. Moreover, the fact that Pearl professed faith in Jesus Christ while simultaneously misquoting the Lord frequently, I suspected that I was dealing with not only Jezebel, but perhaps the spirit of the Anti-Christ as well.

For example, Pearl views herself as “Christ-like”, not at all considering that her 30 year practice of homeopathic healing is an occult practice, nor would she consider
that her own beliefs could in any way be demonic. Working with a captive bound to the Jezebel spirit is no easy task. The complexity of the situation is that when helpless and in the middle of a crisis, the captive is usually cooperative and approachable. Due to the urgency of Pearl’s situation and the importunity of her emails and her phone calls, I overruled the steps and stages of my usual procedure. I confronted the demons by telephone in order to bring Pearl some immediate relief.

By reversing the process, I cast out the demon of torment first so that Pearl would be free to work on her other issues and problems. For example, her adult son had threatened to commit suicide if Pearl did not stop interfering in his life. As is the case with this personality type and the Jezebel spirit, Pearl’s life is one of chaos, instability, confusion and broken relationships. Once I exercised the authority of the Name of Jesus over the demon of torment, the spirit of Jezebel and the spirit of the Anti-Christ were clearly exposed, discernible in Pearl’s transparent self love and obvious sense of superiority. Pearl obtained immediate relief.

Interpreting her well being as a sign of a complete deliverance, Pearl backed off from any further counseling, disregarding and opposing all of my suggestions and comments that she was not at all “delivered.” With much debate and contention, Pearl conceded that “the Lord DID use me to set her free,” but she vehemently refused to address those underlying characteristics that permeate her very proud personality. Considering the length of time that she has been narcissistic, it is only logical that she would tenaciously defend her own self concept. Therefore, in Pearl’s mind, she is “as SHE says she is”—loving, giving, honorable, forthright, righteous, selfless, the perfect mother, superior—to name but a few.

It is apparent to me that Pearl is one of the unsaved professing to be saved. Notwithstanding, in Pearl’s mind, she is “Christ-like” even though she defied several of His words and His ways as evidenced in her emails. Once relieved of torment, the contradictions between Pearl’s actual character and her idealized image of herself became so obvious that it was amazing that she could not perceive it with her own self proclaimed intelligence.

On the contrary, Pearl is consistent in her ability to ignore the unconcealed. In fact, Pearl would only accept the reality of demons in her life as being sent to her through the jealous witchcraft practices of others, never once considering that she could be in any way responsible for her own torment. This inherent blind spot coupled with her adamant resistance to authority is the most serious obstacle to a complete deliverance. Furthermore, within her emails are numerous statements that would cause a knowledgeable Christian to seriously question her salvation.

Unwilling to be broken in spirit, the religious demon’s motive is self evident. Pearl’s solution is to do away with all demonic doorways of a personal nature by declaring herself “above it all.”Pride has hindered Pearl from taking a realistic assessment of those un-submitted areas of her soul. As Paul wrote, “God resists the proud but give grace to the humble.” (James 4:7)

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