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Rejection and Hope

11 Jan
There is hope for you….

By Minister Kellie

“By definition, rejection is a two-edged sword. It can come into a person when that person is rejected (denied love and acceptance) and it can cause as much damage even when the person perceives that they are being rejected. The rejection is real to him, regardless if it is real or not. Rejection can also come out of a person when they refuse to agree to, submit to, or believe an established norm. i.e. rebellion, stubbornness, or refusal to believe truth” (Null, 1996)

How does this affect those who have been on either side of that sword?  Well, rejection is the root of all other heart issues. It causes fear and pride. A person who accepts rejection with acceptance will experience fear. If he refuses the rejection  then pride enters.  All fruit of rejection is classified as works of the flesh.

How did this affect me? I felt rejected most of my life. As a little girl, I was the only blonde haired person in my family. Not to mention that my mother told me that I was “the milkman’s daughter” on various occasions, especially when she was introducing me to friends that would stop over. When you are 3, if your mother tells other people you are the milkman’s daughter, you tend to start asking questions to yourself. Was it true?  ”No” it wasn’t. The enemy tended to use my mother a lot as I was growing up. She always made comments about how different I was from the rest of my siblings. She was not an affectionate individual and this too played into the rejection card. She had a hard time showing love and receiving love. This is hard for a little girl who needs the real unconditional love of her mother. I always felt different in my family, as if there was something different about me. I felt like a round peg in a square hole. Rejection allows the enemy to set up camp in you if you allow it to. It’s like a huge open door for the enemy to bring all of his friends.  Satan tells you that you have every right to feel anger and hatred for the wrong that has been done to you, God says, let me use it to teach you humbleness.

 This is what happened to me. Just as God allowed Saul to feel rejection, Saul used it to turn his heart against David for fear that he would take Saul’s place as king, to the point where he wanted to kill him. If Saul would have just repented, things would have been different for him.   God uses judgement and rejection to delete pride out of us. Saul was chosen because of his humility and rejected because of his pride.

God’s breaking and refining hand  enabled  me to see that He allowed all of the rejection in my life to bring me to the point that I buckled under the weight of it. Whether I had received rejection by my mother’s comments, or I refused the truth and lived by my own standards, it brought me to the same conclusion. Apart from the Lord, I could not do anything. I couldn’t remove it by myself and I couldn’t be saved unless He saved me. With the Holy Spirit breaking my heart, drawing me to the Cross—- it produced Godly sorrow for doing things my own way for all of those years. With my heart turned, I repented and God saved me.

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Overcome Rejection in 2012

10 Jan

  We are just ten days into the New Year.  So there are 355 days left to deal with a subject that  823,000 people a month google for help  with.  The keyword is REJECTION.

I suppose that anyone would ordinarily consider that rejection is evil and “of the devil.” Yet it ain’t necessarily so. Now I’ll use myself as an example. I was born “rejected”. Not that I was deprived of a family, friends, and the essential necessities of life. However, from an emotional perspective, I was not really accepted from the time I was a child because I was not pleasing to various “significant others,” and I was by nature NOT a people pleaser.

However, rejection was one of the best things that ever happened to me on many levels. As a starter, I was rejected by my peers. So not being popular, I became an A student in school, went on to obtained a master’s degree in my chosen field. That led to obtaining decent employment with an organization that afforded me the financial independence I now have as a retired person with an excellent pension. However, rejected in my career was a good thing because if I had been found pleasing and acceptable to those in authority, I would have overworked, gone against my own nature and become a “company person,” and I would not be writing this newsletter right now. I could go on an on with this line of discernment from work, to family, to personal relationships—I am filled with blessings derived from rejection.

Even more, from a spiritual perspective, there are too many benefits to account for that came as a result of rejection. In fact, the book  “Come Out of Her God’s People” is a testament of how I have been blessed by being rejected so I won’t belabor it here. For those who are interested, I recommend the book to you. It can be purchased at http://www.pamsheppard.com/bookstore, Amazon, and several other book retailers. Suffice it to say for now, that if it were not for rejection, I would not be the author of all 6 books, nor would I be writing this newsletter. If it were not for rejection, at this very moment in time, I would be a blind pastor, leading a blind congregation, in a dead church.

Therefore, I thank God for my blessing. For as I try the spirits, I come to understand that I have been rejected not so much because of who I am, but because of who Jesus IS, so as He wisely stated, I rejoice and I am exceedingly glad.

So Beloved, you have your own cross to bear. If not, then I question whether or not you belong to Jesus Christ of Nazareth. We must overcome as the Lord overcame if we are to share in His Throne and in His conquest. Jesus led the way. We must follow. Jesus passed through His hour and the power of darkness at Calvary yet to rise in victory. We pass through that same dark valley of the shadow of death. In order to pass through the darkness, we need the wisdom of God to comprehend it. For on the other side of the dark valley is victory.

Anyone who has no victory over sin remains in the dark valley and you are food for the enemy. Client after client that I come in contact with are in the dark valley, not because they have sinned, but because they are consumed with a consciousness of sin. In other words, they have not been cleansed, washed in the blood of the Lamb with no condemnation in their minds or in their hearts. Its like having sex without an orgasm. If you never experienced being washed in the blood, not feeling like a sinner anymore, always worried about whether you committed the unpardonable sin, then Lord have mercy on you. You might as well be in the world doing your thing than to claim to be “in Christ” yet you always feel condemned.

                                                                                                                                                            

Know this, Dear Reader. Religious demons can counterfeit both sin and self-condemnation. Consider a person who has never had real sexual pleasure, yet because she allowed a woman to fondle here breasts a few times years ago, the enemy has convinced her that she is a lesbian. A Pentecostal, holiness person, she is STILL being tormented by an incident that happened several years ago, yet she claims that she is saved. Whatever thoughts are accepted from evil spirits gives these beings both entry and power. When a believer knows the Cross and his position of death to sin, whenever sin is alive in your mind but you are not actually sinning, then those thoughts are not your own and they need to be cast down.

Finally, we are a unique counseling center  because our Christian counselors are licensed by the state of New York to practice counseling and our mentors are trained and  certified by Sheppard’s Counseling Center.  If you would like to finally overcome rejection, depression and other stumbling-blocks and strongholds, we offer you our help.  So call 518-477-5759. We look forward to hearing from YOU in 2012.